Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Getting Back to Your Sassy, Stylish Self!

Hi She She Me! I'm Madie from the Philippines. I used to be very fashionable, could always turn heads whenever I walked by. Even though I was busy as a student, dj and a dancer, I was still fashionable and took care of myself. That was 2 years ago. Now I am finished with my studies but I don't get to dance any more. I am focused now on my job 8 hours a day, and unfortunately I am not as fashionable as I once was! I don't know what went wrong, but I want to be fabulously stylish and fashionable once again. Could you give me some pointers and motivation on how to achieve this - within a budget of course! Thank you soooo much! Madie

Darling Girl,

This is indeed a dilemma, but one that can be easily solved! You have overcome the biggest hurdle of all - by recognizing that you have slipped into a style slump and being willing to climb out of it.

First of all, style is more than just a wardrobe. Style is a talent (and, luckily, one that can be acquired)! A plain little black dress can be transformed into a chic fashion statement by the perfect shoes, wrap, handbag and jewelry. And it doesn't need to put you in the poorhouse either!

I would suggest starting with a few great quality basics, then build from there. The framework of your wardrobe should always be the best quality that you can afford. Top quality basics will last for years, will never go out of style and will be a great investment.

Start with a fitted blazer. A classic neutral like brown, navy or charcoal can coordinate with just about anything. A blazer always adds an element of style and can be worn with jeans, trousers, skirts and even dresses. Choose a fit that flatters your personal body type and make sure it is very good quality fabric, cut and style. Don't scrimp here!

White button-down blouse. Another classic. Can be worn with the blazer and jeans for a great casual weekend look or paired with a skirt and heels for an easy business lunch.

Cashmere sweater. Nothing feels as exquisite as cashmere! I would opt for a great fitted cardigan because of its versatility as well as style. It can be worn over blouses, under jackets, with jeans, trousers, skirts and dresses! As I said, very versatile!

Fabulous denim jeans. Another no-scrimp item. Take an afternoon (and a very good friend who will be totally honest with you) and try on every pair of designer jeans in Saks, Bloomies or Nordstrom till you find the pair that is most flattering to you. Hint: Straight leg styles are universally the most flattering, but a slight boot-cut will usually work too. Now that you know which jeans looks best on you, scour the sales and keep an eye on great online sources for good deals and you'll never be without a great pair of jeans!

Wool trousers. One great pair of fantastic trousers in a not-too-wide-leg style, (but not skinny or flared either.) Think timeless style. Black, navy or khaki.

A-line skirt. The classic style. Always looks good, always flattering. Keep it about knee length or just above (too long and it looks frumpy, too short and it looks trashy). I love skirts because they can be dressed up or down, depending on the look you are going for. I love to wear a classic a-line with a great tee shirt, a denim jacket and a pair of wedges. Or, you can go glam with a shimmery top, elegant coat and classic pumps.

LBD. Every girl must have a great little black dress! Here, again, go with what flatters your figure the most. If you have a great waist, emphasize it in a chic wrap dress. If you have sexy arms, go with a halter-style or a sleeveless dress.

Now that you have the basics, you can bump up the volume with tops, tees and other separates, and you can add individual style with accessories. A great tote bag for work. A chic little shoulder bag for evenings. A classic pair of knee boots. A pair of basic black pumps. A pair of chic neutral flats. A pair of mid-heel t-straps or Mary Janes. A pair of sexy, sassy skyscrapers to wear with the LBD!

Monday, December 17, 2007

Fun Formal Fashions

She She! First, hope you had a wonderful holiday! You of all people deserve it! You have helped me countless times and thank you so much for that! I was wondering, I have been asked to go to a formal dance for the first time and I have no idea what sort of dress would be good within a somewhat tight budget. Thank you so much! Esther

Your first formal dance! How exciting! Every time I walk into a florist shop I am immediately transported back to my prom (corsages!) You are going to be the most stylish girl on the dance floor my dear!

One fabulous source for prom dresses is eDressMe.com. They have a fabulous selection and very, very good prices. Prom dresses can range anywhere from around $100 to well over $1,000 (yikes!), so finding a gorgeous dress at a great price is truly rewarding. (That way you still have enough cash left for shoes, handbag and a mani/pedi, right?) Also, be sure to check the bridesmaid sections at the major department stores - they often have great gowns at very affrodable prices.
A formal dance no longer means just floor-length dresses. Today there are so many stylish tea-length (mid-calf) dresses and shorter dresses which work just as well - especially in the often inclement weather (no dragging satin hems!). Although it is fun to go all-out in a formal gown!

Don't forget the accessories! A fun little bag, sparkly earrings and bracelet, strappy sandals, and a wrap and you are good to go!

Friday, December 14, 2007

The Skinny on Cowboy Boots


Dear She She, Are cowboy boots still acceptable? Kesha

Hi Kesha!

Trends come and go, they always have, they always will. However, there are some trends that seem to stand the test of time. Two of those trends are equestrian style boots and cowboy boots! A word of caution, however. Don't overdo a trend! When wearing equestrian style boots, don't pair them with jodhpurs and a hacking jacket unless you are prepared to ride to hounds. Same goes for cowboy boots. Stay away from the Annie Oakley look. A pair of hot designer jeans and a crisp white blouse. A really amazing jacket. Then kick it into high gear with a pair of gorgeous cowboy boots.


One of my favorite go-to outfits is a swingy chocolate knit dress that I wear with black opaque tights and a gorgeous pair of cowboy boots that I have had for at least seven years. These boots are very high quality, they are awesome, they are gorgeous and they make me feel like a total rock star.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

The Fastest Way to Silky Smooth Legs

With holiday parties looming, and all of those gorgeous cocktail dresses just waiting to be worn, I know one thing on every girl's mind is keeping her legs silky smooth. I, for one, just hate shaving! I have the nicks and scars to prove it too! And I really hate waiting for the hair to get long enough to wax - it just defeats the purpose, no? So what's a girl to do?

Well, this twirty girl has discovered the VEET® Rasera® Bladeless™ Kit, which I use with the moisturizing hair removal gel-cream. The "razor" is bladeless, so no chance of nicks and cuts, and it is also flexible so it follows my curves for a smooth, close shave—without cuts, dryness or stubble. And it lasts twice as long as regular shaving!
I used to shave every single morning, and sometimes again before I went out in the evening. Needless to say, that much shaving really dried out my skin, not to mention the nicks I would get from shaving in a hurry! I can honestly say that the Veet system has saved my skin. No more nicks and cuts, my legs feels silky smooth for longer and it is so simple, easy and quick to use. 3 minutes is all it takes! Check out Veet today and have silky smooth legs all holiday long!

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Holiday Cocktail Party Attire

Hi SheShe! You're just the gal to help me with my party dilemma. I've ordered this Bloomie's sweater in black for a cocktail party during the holidays, but what to wear with it? Black pants, winter white? Also, since the sweater is yummy cashmere, but with lots of embellishment, what kind of jewelry can go with it - elegant but understated?

I hope you can help - I really love this top and want to look cute. Here's to being the "happiest and prettiest girl" at the party...and cheers to you for a wonderful holiday season!

~Elizabeth


Dearest Girl you will definitely be the belle of the ball! I adore this sweater too (think I might just snap one up for myself!). Since I had a real nasty incident with a winter white skirt at a party last year (involving chocolate fondue and a misplaced skewer) I have steered away from lighter colors at festive holiday gatherings.

Think about the overall focus of the party - is it friends or is it work related? If the cocktail party is work related, I would keep the ensemble sleek, sophisticated and simple. Choose a pair of wide leg trousers in a rich fabric like wool or wool gabardine. These will definitely complement the fitted sweater. Finish the ensemble with a pair of sleek skyscrapers with a nice stacked heel, a great little leather clutch and a pair of simple small silver hoop earrings.

If it is a gathering of friends, you can bump it up a notch. I would go with pair of pants in either a metallic woven denim, or perhaps a rich satin. Either would work well with the luxurious cashmere, especially with the gorgeous embellishments on this particular sweater. You can be a little more edgy with the footwear here too. Something with a little bling would be good. Same goes for the handbag. As far as jewelry, however, once again I would just stick with simple earrings (the sweater has enough bling on its own.)

Or you could go with a sleek leather skirt, opaque rights, and fun heels. Animal print, crocodile or snakeskin handbag and fun dangle earrings and you are good to go!




Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Gorgeous Hair for the Holidays

As we all know, happy girls are the prettiest girls, and I have found the most fabulous hair straightener that is making me incredibly happy, and therefore, incredibly pretty! From the Conair Nano Silver Collection, the Tourmaline Ceramic Straightener is by far and above the best hair straightener I have ever used. The ionic technology and infrared energy help to protect your hair's natural luster, leaving you with clean, shiny, healty-looking hair with less damage.

I have tried and tossed at least ten different hair straighteners over the past few years. Either they fry my hair and leave it looking like dried out straw, or it takes forever to straighten my hair one tiny section at a time but it never seems to look as sleek and shiny as the ads on tv and in the glossy magazines. Until now. The Infiniti Nano Silver by Conair Tourmaline Ceramic Straightener is a dream come true.

Just look at how gorgeously sleek and shiny our model's hair is! Alex's hair is naturally curly, especially around the hairline. She used the Conair Nano Silver Tourmaline straightener, set on a medium heat setting, and was able to straighten her hair in under five minutes! The sleek, shiny style lasted all day, all night, and even looked fabulous first thing the next morning!
I have been able to cut 30 minutes out of my morning routine by using the Conair Infiniti Nano Styler to dry my hair quickly while minimizing heat damage, and then using the Conair Infiniti Tourmaline Straightener to get my hair looking sleek, shiny and incredibly healthy. I adore these products!

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Holiday Gifts for the Boss

Hi She She, You've helped me out tremendously before, so I'd like to request your help in finding a gift for two fun, fearless, and FABULOUS females in their fifties - my bosses! These two educated, cultured, and business-savvy women have owned their own successful interior design firm for 25 years while maintaining strong families AND still managing to outdo their contemporaries when it comes to anything style-related! However, they are SO hard to shop for because they seem to have it all, and a "spa gift certificate" just doesn't seem like something that would cause their faces to light up...these women need something "WOW!"...I know that's a tall order, but I have every faith in you, She She! Please help! Thank you so much! G

Wow, that really is a tall order! A good rule to remember for executive holiday gifts is that the personal touch is nice - just not too personal. Gifts considered too personal by most business etiquette sources are clothing, toiletries and anything with a religious connotation.

It is always difficult to find the perfect gift for the woman who already has everything, and one can easily fall into the trap of trying to out-do gifts from previous years. My advice is to keep it chic and simple, yet personal enough for them to know that a lot of loving thought went into the gift.

Take her personal interests into consideration. For the pet lover, these adorable dog collars and leashes from Pup-Pup Designs are fabulous! I received one as a gift for my little Westie, Zac, and we loved it so much that I gave one to my uber-chic mentor/boss for her Yorkie and she was over the moon for it! She was thrilled and touched that I had thought of her darling baby.

What are her personal interests? Tickets to an upcoming concert, play or event are always a great idea, because this is not necessarily something she would buy for herself, but it is something that she would love to attend. Does she love to read? A signed copy or beautifully bound edition of one of her favorite author's books would be a thoughtful choice.

Last year, knowing that her boss was a major Anglophile, Shop Girl gave her the entire A&E Pride and Prejudice DVD set and scored serious brownie points.

So what am I giving my boss this year? A sterling silver key ring from Tiffany. It is simple, chic and sophisticated, without being over-the-top flashy (ahh, that signature Tiffany style!) Also, every time she pulls out her keys she will think of me!

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

What to Wear to a Winter Wedding

Dear She She Me, I have a dilemma that only the she-she-est of women can solve. I will be attending my sister-in-law's black tie evening wedding in early February in Maine (BRRRRRRRR.........). I HATE to be cold (I'm a CA girl after all), and so I've been trying to find a long sleeve, floor length dress (first priority) or a long sleeve knee/calf length dress (second priority). But I'm having a TERRIBLE time. It seems most of the dresses are sleeveless or strapless, and I know I will be cold despite the most lovely of wraps. Further, I'm not sure how I feel about a jacket - I don't think it's the most flattering of looks for me, as I'm an hourglass shape, and my best feature is definitely my very small waist. So I'd like to show it off (need to look fab in those family pictures!) Any suggestions??? I'm open to ideas for other attire as well - as long as I'll be warm!! Stylishly stumped, Leigh

Dear Leigh,

A black tie wedding is definitely an occasion to pull out all the stops for, but I agree with you that there is no reason to freeze one's assets off just to look stylish. While most evening gowns do seem to be sleeveless, there are quite a few stylish options out there, especially now with the holidays coming up. This is the perfect time for you to snap up a little something for your black tie affair.

Since your small waist is your best feature, that is where the emphasis should be. This gorgeous liquid gold dress by Tadashi is ideal. The basket-weave wrap detail at the waist is very figure flattering and the sleeves provide enough coverage to keep you warm without being overheated.
Another great figure flattering option for a girl with a tiny waist is a wrap-style top and skirt in a stunning fabric like shot silk, organza or taffeta. The side-tie enhances the waist without the illusion of cutting you in half.
This matte jersey gown with empire seaming is also a great choice. It drapes from the empire waist, just skimming the body without hugging too closely.

One thing you might also want to consider is a gown with a bolero style jacket. The bolero is not as bulky as a regular jacket and is very flattering especially if you have an hourglass figure. You can also wear a bolero over just about any sleeveless, strapless or spaghetti strap dress in the same shade or tone.

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Luscious Lip Plumpers

Hi . My problem is thin lips. I have tried some lip plumpers and they don't seem to last. Is there one that will last the day? I am an older woman in my 60's, but I don't want to look or feel old. Please help. Thank you, Jackielynn

Dear Jackielynn,

This is a dilemma that faces women of all ages and degrees of lip lusciousness. I, too, have need of a bit of lip plumping and wish that I could find a permanent solution, but am fearful that I would end up looking like a duck! Thank heaven for lovely lip plumper glosses and lipsticks.

Personally, I have tried many different types of lip plumper, and my favorite by far is LipFusion. Not only does it come in a variety of gorgeous shades, but it doesn't dry out my lips the way other plumpers do. Many other plumpers have to be reapplied almost continuously to maintain the look and feel of plumper lips, but LipFusion lasts a LONG time. I only have to reapply it a few times a day - more like normal lipstick. Also, it isn't sticky or tacky, but makes my lips feel moist and smooth. Kissable in fact!

LipFusion also makes a great line of lip plumping pencils, and the absolutely divine LipFusion XL Advanced Lip Plumping Therapy, which is fabulous as a nighttime treatment for your lips.

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Fashion Help for a Stay-at-Home Mom

Dear Shes, I have loved all of you for so long! You have definitely helped me through many seasons of style. However, I have a new issue. This former fashionista is now a stay at home mom and I fear that I have relegated myself to the traditional SAHM uniform - jeans, t-shirts and pajamas. It is hard to dress nice with a one-year-old, but what do you suggest that is comfortable, fashionable and functional (not to mention affordable now that we are one income family)? Kisses, Lindsey

Dearest Chic Mom,

Let's nip this little fashion crisis in the bud before you stray any further! First and foremost, pajamas are not daywear! Repeat after me PAJAMAS ARE NOT DAYWEAR! Shop Girl would be horrified, as indeed she was the one time she caught me at the corner market in my flannel pj's and trench coat (I had a cold and needed decongestant and fresh OJ) and I promised to never commit said fashion crime again.

Solution: For those mornings when things are running a bit behind schedule (which is probably every morning with a one-year-old right?), or the times that you must quickly dash to the store, instead of venturing out in pj's and a tee shirt, slip on a pair of sleek yoga pants, sporty top, hoodie and stylish trainers and you are good to go! Instead of looking like you just fell out of bed you look like you are headed out for a bit of exercise! In fact, Pretty Mama swears by this ritual: the moment she awakes in the morning she immediately dresses in her yoga or walking togs. She then has the incentive to get a bit of exercise in before showering and dressing for the day, and if she has to drop off her son's lunchbox at school she isn't caught in her pj's and slippers!
Word of caution: don't get in the habit of spending the day as the Tracksuit Mom or the Workout Mom. This is all too easy to fall for. Get up, get going, get your exercise then get showered and dressed like the chic fashionista mamacita that you are! Your hubby will appreciate it and your kids won't be mortified when you show up at their school.

Now for the fun stuff! Shopping! With a one-year-old in tow, the days of Dry Clean Only are on hold for awhile. However, there are sooooo many other options than just jeans and tees! Jeans are fabulous and are perfect for everyday wear, as long as the cut and style is flattering to you. A straight leg style or slight bootcut is flattering to most body types. Jeans with a little stretch look great and are comfortable as well. A great pair of corduroy trousers, or a pair of khaki or twill trousers is also a good choice for everyday wear.

Instead of the basic tee shirt, choose something with a little more style. Layering is particularly effective; a lace-trimmed cami or ribbed tank under a fitted button-down shirt or v-neck sweater, topped by a classic blazer or jacket. This will go with jeans or dressier trousers. The whole look is a bit more grown-up than jeans and a tee, and the blazer just adds that perfect touch of class. You could also later a semi-sheer blouse over a tank, then top with a jacket, blazer or sweater. Finish off with a pair of chic flats and a great all-around handbag.

Another option with jeans, khakis or cords would be a great fitting long-sleeve tee, but top it with a stylish sweater or cropped jacket. You'll have comfort and style. Go with low heeled wedges to complete your fabu look.

If you are a dress girl (which I am!) there are soooooo many casual yet chic choices! I adore this season's gorgeous sweater dresses. Pair a comfy sweater dress with opaque tights and knee boots and you will be the most stylish mom at the park! Another option is to layer a sweater dress, tunic dress or other short dress over skinny jeans. Finish off with fab footwear and you are très chic!


Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Fab Fashions for a Bachelorette Party

Hi She She Me,
I am going to a Bachelorette party in a couple of weeks, and I have no idea what to wear. We are going out to dinner and then bar hopping in a very cool college town. I am not college age (neither is the bride), and I haven't been bar hopping or anywhere cool in a very long time. My first thought is to go sparkly shirt/jeans/high heels, but I think that look may be dated. I don't want to look like I am trying too hard (i.e. cocktail dress) either. Do you have any ideas for a twirty-girl matron-of-honor? Thanks, Carrie


Dearest Carrie,
What fun! A bachelorette party is always the perfect excuse to pull out your glad rags (or buy new ones!) and strut your stuff. I would suggest you stay away from the jeans/heels look mostly because, as you say, you will be in a cool college town where all of the cool college girls will be wearing just that - jeans and heels - and you don't want to look like you are regressing, or even worse, trying to pass. My advice is to stand out as the chic and sophisticated woman that you are!

You can still go with the glitz, but try pairing a sequin trimmed blouse, cami or tank with a great jacket and a pair of wide leg trousers. Finish off with heels, a sassy handbag for your girly goodies and unique jewelry. Stay away from anything preppy looking. Stick with chic and sophisticated.

A dress is also a good option, but steer away from the cocktail frocks and aim for a more minimalist look; a chic sweater dress or perhaps a figure skimming knit dress paired with platforms will have you looking very vogue without being over the top. Add a handbag with a little more feminine feel and bangles to finish. Another great look would be a stylish skirt with a little edge to it - perhaps leather or even a tweed with a little sparkle woven through - paired with tights and a fabulous pair of skyscrapers. The handbag can have a little more attitude here too, as well as the bling.


Sunday, September 30, 2007

Hair Help

Hi she she me. I know hair isn't exactly your area, but I couldn't think of anybody else to ask! Recently I bought hair dye from a drug store and dyed my hair with it. It was only one shade lighter then my natural hair color. While dying it, my scalp burned a little and itched a little too. Now, while I am happy with my hair color, my hair is starting to itch and fall off. Not that much, but certainly a lot more than I am used to seeing. Is there any cure for this? Thanks she she me! Take care!

Well, darling girl, looks like you are starting down a slippery slope! Let's put a stop to that here and now! Speaking as one who has turned her own hair green (starving college student, what can I say?) and then paid a semi-substantial sum to rectify said greenness, I can in all honesty advise you to never color your own hair! But you already know that now, right? The burning and itching you felt were a reaction to the chemicals in the hair color, and an indication that you have a sensitive scalp. Because of this, you should always go to a hair color professional for any coloring, highlights, lowlights, glazing, etc. that you may wish to have done, because a professional colorist will have access to exactly the right processing for your needs.

That said, let's get to the problem at hand. (And you do promise never to color your hair at home again, right?) First of all, you need to sooth the delicate skin on your scalp, as well as treat the damage to your hair. One of the girls here at our offices had a similar hair coloring disaster, and not only did her scalp itch and burn, but her hair went all funky and fried too. She swears that Philosophy Shear Spendor Age-Defying Hair "Marinating" Oil saved her hair and her love life. Use it as a once-a-week deep conditioning treatment. My suggestion would be to apply it to your hair, cover with a shower cap to seal in the luscious formula, then soak in a nice fragrant bubble bath while listening to soothing music - voila! Rejuvenation for both hair and soul!

Another great hair treatment that might be a little more readily available and affordable is Neutrogena Triple Moisture Deep Recovery Hair Mask. Again, use this as a weekly deep conditioning treatment.

Also, use a daily conditioner to sooth your scalp and protect your hair. I love Philosophy Shear Splendor Conditioning Mask. You can use this daily, but use it sparingly so you don't weigh down your hair. Another great daily conditioner is Beauty Without Cruelty Leave-In Conditioner. Again, use in moderation for the best results.
Hope these tips help! Take care of yourself and take care of your hair!!!

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Building a Basic Wardrobe

Dear SheSheMe, I have been prego on and off for the last 6 years, so now that I am back to semi-normal I am in need of pretty much an entire wardrobe. Anything that does exist in my closet either doesn't fit or is years past expiration. I am in search of a list or guideline of what basics to purchase to start building a decent wardrobe. The goal would be to go from permanently living in my workout clothes to the most stylish mommy at carpool. Thanks She She! Heather

Dearest girl, this is the dilemma of many a mommy and we are here to help! The key to building a new wardrobe is to think classic and timeless; go for quality over quantity. Here is my list of the basic building blocks for a fabulous wardrobe that will have you at the top of the Best Dressed Carpool Mommy List!

  • A fitted blazer. A classic neutral like brown, navy or charcoal can coordinate with just about anything. A blazer always adds an element of style and can be worn with jeans, trousers, skirts and even dresses. Choose a fit that flatters your personal body type and make sure it is very good quality fabric, cut and style. Don't scrimp here!

  • White button-down blouse. Another classic. Can be worn with the blazer and jeans for a great mom-on-the-go look, or paired with a skirt and heels for those PTA dinners.
  • Cashmere sweater. If possible, find a great cashmere twinset because you will get double duty from the shell and the cardigan. A v-neck sweater is also a great option because it can be worn over blouses and under jackets for very distinctive looks.

  • Fabulous denim jeans. Another no-scrimp item. Take an afternoon (and a very good friend who will be totally honest with you) and try on every pair of designer jeans in Saks, Bloomies or Nordstrom till you find the pair that is most flattering to you. Hint: Straight leg styles are universally the most flattering, but a slight boot-cut will usually work too. Now that you know which jeans looks best on you, scour the sales and keep an eye on great online sources for good deals and you'll never be without a great pair of jeans!

  • Wool trousers. One great pair of fantastic trousers in a not-too-wide-leg style, (but not skinny or flared either.) Think timeless style. Black, navy or khaki.

  • A-line skirt. The classic style. Always looks good, always flattering. Keep it about knee length or just above (too long and it looks frumpy, too short and it looks trashy). I love skirts because they can be dressed up or down, depending on the look you are going for. I love to wear a classic a-line with a great tee shirt, a denim jacket and a pair of wedges. Or, you can go glam with a shimmery top, elegant coat and classic pumps.

  • And speaking of trench coats, this is another of those must-have items. I promise, if you get a great quality basic trench coat today, you will still be wearing it in five years and probably in ten.

  • LBD. Every girl must have a great little black dress! Here, again, go with what flatters your figure the most. If you have a great waist, emphasize it in a chic wrap dress. If you have sexy arms, go with a halter-style or a sleeveless dress.

  • A great tote bag. Not too big, and keep it sleek for a timeless look.

  • As far as footwear: a great pair of knee boots. A pair of basic black pumps. A pair of chic neutral flats. A pair of mid-heel t-straps or Mary Janes. A pair of sexy, sassy skyscrapers to wear with the LBD!

Those are the basics! You can fill in the blanks with tops, tees and other separates, and you can add individual style with accessories. You will definitely make a splash at the next PTA meeting!

Friday, September 14, 2007

The Perfect Coat, Anywhere, Any-weather!



Hi Shes!
LOVE, love, love your site. Thanks for keeping a twirty-something mamma of three from wearing mom-jeans and athletic shoes! My question is this: I live in coastal North Carolina, and although most of the year it is very temperate, it occasionally dips into "coldishness." Naturally, I need a fabulous coat to accommodate these moments. It cannot be too heavy, or it's useless. Would be open to a variety of styles/lengths/fabrics. Any suggestions? Any upcoming sheshes devoted to outerwear???? Devotedly, Angela



Darling Girl, when it comes to fabulous outerwear I have just one thing to say...trench coat! A classic trench coat is the perfect go-to outerwear item because it never goes out of style (honestly!) Remember Ingrid Bergman in Casa Blanca? Gorgeous trench coat. Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany's? Another fabu trench coat. Chic, stylish, sophisticated...a trench will do the trick every time.

And lucky for the stylish fashionista, there are oodles of gorgeous trench coats out there to choose from! From the classic khaki trench, to one with a more military style, to fun floral prints and polkadots. Another fabulous thing about trench coats is not only do they come in a splendid choice of styles, they are also very affordable.

My favorite classic trench is from Banana Republic. Great fit, great price, timeless style. I also love this twill trench for its edgy style. Love the foldover collar and the funky lime green lining!

You can also go designer with this classic trench from Juicy Couture. The quilted lining adds warmth without being too bulky or too hot. This gorgeous trench by Robert Rodriguez is a little more expensive, but is a great investment because you will get years of wear out of it.
For dressier occasions, go with something a little flirtier, like this grey swing style trench. Or even a fun taffeta or silk trench. The possibilities are endless!

Sunday, September 02, 2007

What to Wear to a Wedding

Dear She She Me,
I have been invited by my boyfriend to attend his relative’s wedding in the fall (October) somewhere in Rhode Island. This means his entire family will be there, so a wedding plus meeting his relatives can be nerve-wrecking. Can you help me figure out something pretty yet also appropriate (meaning non-revealing) to wear for this fall wedding? I have never attended a formal wedding, so I need help with dress, shoes, and purse. (Is pantyhose even necessary? I’m so lost!) Thanks! ~ Mandy


How wonderful for you dearest girl, and of course you want to look your very best (it is always a great confidence booster!). There are a couple of things to remember when it comes to formal weddings: Number one: do not wear white (only the bride has that prerogative). Number two: if the wedding is during the daytime, do not wear black or sequins. If the wedding is an evening affair, black is perfectly acceptable, as is beading, glam accessories, etc. Number three: if the wedding is in a church, temple or synagogue, be sure to cover your shoulders with a dressy wrap or light dressy jacket.

For a formal daytime wedding, a dressy suit or knee length dress is fine. Choose something that is easy to sit down it (meaning it doesn't crawl up the thigh when you sit), especially if the service is at a church. I would go with something in a flowy, figure skimming fabric like chiffon. Also, considering that this event is taking place on the east coast in the fall, choose a wrap that is warm as well as stylish. As for your question regarding pantyhose, since this is a formal affair I would say definitely (they also add warmth!). Choose hose with a nice sheen for a very glam look. Shoes should be mid-heel, perhaps an elegant slingback or a pump with a little embellishment, but stick with leather or even snakeskin (satin and brocade are for evening wear). A gorgeous leather clutch will complete this very elegant look.

For a formal evening wedding, you can glam it up a bit more. A dressy cocktail gown or even a floor length gown would be a fabulously stylish choice. Bear in mind, that you are meeting the fam, and it is a wedding, so don't go too bare or too plunging with the neckline. A halter-neck style is elegant and stylish, but make sure that the neckline is not too plunging and the straps are not too flimsy. Stay away from anything spaghetti strap or strapless altogether. A gorgeous sleeveless gown would be a good choice, as would be an classic LBD. For the footwear choice, go with something a little more glamorous, perhaps with more of a heel - something that you can dance the night away in. A gorgeous satin or embellished evening shoe is perfection. Same goes for the bag; something that makes a stylish statement. You can also glam up a gown with great accessories - a unique necklace, earrings or bracelet - and an embroidered evening wrap would be a stylish addition indeed.

Saturday, August 25, 2007

Stylish Fashions for a Curvy Girl

Hello My Dear She She,
I have big problems. I am 5'8" and wear a size 14. I carry all of my weight right in my mid-section and am very large chested (thanks for the great legs, Mom!). This makes the supposedly slimming wrap tops/dresses a nightmare for me! Baby doll styles leave me looking 7 months pregnant and I am at a loss! I am on an eternal quest to find tops that flatter my figure without tugging, hugging or impregnating me! Can you please help me?
Thank you! Jules


Dearest Jules!

This is a dilemma that I hear time and time again, and we are going to get you headed in the right direction right away! The very first thing that you need to do is make certain that you have a fabulous bra. And by fabulous, I mean going in for a professional bra fitting. I cannot emphasize how important this is, and how it will change your life forever (for the better!) I would suggest going to a major department store - Bloomies, Nordies, Saks, Victoria's Secret - who usually do bra consultations for free (I had mine done at Victoria's Secret). The proper bra will keep the girls locked and loaded so you won't have to worry about the trauma's that occur with an ill-fitting bra (too much cleavage, uni-boob, underarm bulge, etc.) It will also open up entirely new wardrobe possibilities!
Now that you are properly supported, you will find that those slimming wrap tops/dresses actually are an option now! One concern that curvy women have, however, is over-exposure of the girls in a wrap style top or dress. A gorgeous cami will solve that problem toute suite, and can even bump up the volume a bit if you go with something lacy or with a little shimmer.

I would, however, stay away from anything in a babydoll style or a traditional empire waist style. This does not totally rule out the empire waistline, just anything that is voluminous enough to make you look prego. Try looking for a modified empire style that hits below the bustline but just above the natural waistline. A twist-front top or dress is a good option, because it flows from below the bust gently over the hips and is soooo flattering.

Button down shirts are also very figure flattering; just make sure that when you are trying them on you get the size that fits across the bust (even if you have to go up a size) then have it tailored to fit. Same with a blazer or jacket. If you make sure it fits across the bust and is not too snug in the upper arm area it will be so much more flattering and slimming. Also, look for blazers and jackets that have seaming to emphasize your slim waist and hourglass figure.